it is what it is

Welcome to reality. If you lived here, you’d be home now.

So, why can’t *adults* just do that?

July10

[Mary has well-behaved toddlers in public] by clear communication in advance, by making expectations understood, and by following through with firm, compassionate, consistency. The key to avoiding conflict and acrimony, and to creating a warm and nurturing environment, is good communication.

Mary P. (of It’s Not All Mary Poppins) is part of a new blogging community, Partners in Parenting. Even if you’re not a parent — but definitely if you are — it’s worth a look.

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The next couple paragraphs from the same posting guidelines are worth mentioning here:

We at Partners in Parenting, we aim to create just such a nurturing, safe environment where parents, regardless of their philosophical stripe, may meet, discuss, brainstorm, learn, encourage, and support each other. This means that we have to all agree to play nice.

As I say to the tots all the time, “You may be angry, but you may not scream.” Here at PiP, you may disagree, you may even challenge, but you may not be rude. A variety of approaches makes for a rich experience. We do not all have to have the same opinion, but we do have to respect the rights of others to a) have that differing opinion, and b) express it.

Good, GOD. Again, why can’t adults do that?

posted under culture, motherhood, psychobabblings

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Allison
Los Alamos, NM
After a childhood of immersion in my family's religious tradition, I hit college and my first true experience with the question, "why?" Why did I believe as I did? If I thought about it, I had no idea. So, I spent the next ten years not thinking about it.

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Once I hit 30, I began asking myself that question all over again. A few years later, I woke one day to realize that I simply didn't believe. For many reasons, I am a much happier (and more emotionally healthy) person having let go of god. There are still days that I wish god did exist. It would be a relief to relinquish responsibility to a greater power.

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But, even better, I can see life for what it is, and work with reality. That's more powerful than any god could hope to be.