it is what it is

Welcome to reality. If you lived here, you’d be home now.

Well, *that* explains a lot.

November17

Why do Asperger men and Neuro-typical women get married?
AS men are attracted to strong, intelligent, compassionate women who can handle the social world for them. These same women are attracted to the unconventional nature and boyish charm of AS men. They feel he will allow them their independence. It is only later that they learn their AS partner is quite conservative. Instead of supporting her independence the NT wife realizes that her AS husband is merely disinterested in her interests. His attention is narrowly focused on his interests.

(Source)

To say that I have a lot on my mind doesn’t even begin to describe it. When I sort my thoughts out a bit more, I may write about them. Then again, considering the subject (my marriage), I may not. On the plus side, Mike is incredibly motivated to meet my needs — as long as he can actually figure them out. That’s the hard part.

posted under direction, it is what it is, marital bliss, psychobabblings
4 Comments to

“Well, *that* explains a lot.”

  1. Avatar November 17th, 2008 at 6:59 pm Laine Says:

    How interesting that I’ve also been giving AS a lot of thought lately regarding a loved one.

    While grad school will undoubtedly add pressure to your life, it may help to divert your focus. I get a little crazy in the summers over stuff that bothers me not at all during the school year.

    I love your “I’ll feel better when I do something” mantra.

    Sending many good thoughts and prayers your way.
  2. Avatar November 18th, 2008 at 8:41 am Libby Says:

    Sending supportive hugs! As I re-embark on the odyssey that is marriage, I think a lot about what we know about a person when we marry them, what we find out only through the day-in and day-out living together, and the weird *something* that changes after you marry… Hope everything works out (for us both) in the happiest, healthiest way possible.
  3. Avatar November 19th, 2008 at 11:41 pm Mermade Says:

    *Hugs*

    I know this post is about your marriage, so I am not going to pry, but I want you to know that I always enjoy your commentary on what makes relationships work. I really do admire your ideas, especially now when I have entered a brand new, serious relationship. Anyway, I would be happy to hear your thoughts if you feel comfortable sharing them, but I understand if you’re not.
    :-)


  4. Avatar December 1st, 2008 at 10:00 pm Allison Says:

    Hmm. Laine, I think I know which one, and yeah, I’d think so. After this T-day weekend, I think my nephew may also fit it.

    As time goes on, I realize that M would NEVER be diagnosable. He shows traits, but they’re mostly weak for each option. It’s as if he were AS lite? Whatever the case, this has given me a new insight into my life, and I’m talking w/a counselor.

Email will not be published

Website example

Your Comment:

 
.

Allison
Los Alamos, NM
After a childhood of immersion in my family's religious tradition, I hit college and my first true experience with the question, "why?" Why did I believe as I did? If I thought about it, I had no idea. So, I spent the next ten years not thinking about it.

.

Once I hit 30, I began asking myself that question all over again. A few years later, I woke one day to realize that I simply didn't believe. For many reasons, I am a much happier (and more emotionally healthy) person having let go of god. There are still days that I wish god did exist. It would be a relief to relinquish responsibility to a greater power.

.

But, even better, I can see life for what it is, and work with reality. That's more powerful than any god could hope to be.