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I forgot to extend this invitation: If you’re married or in a relationship, and you’d like to join in, please do. Leave your happy thoughts about your S/O in the comments, or write them up at your blog — but please leave a link here, too.
Day 1
Thought: I am genuinely fond of my partner.
Task: List one characteristic you find endearing or lovable.
This is easy. I *am* genuinely fond of my husband. Do I only get to list one characteristic?
No matter how much you think you’re ready, marriage is hard. Talking to friends who’ve BTDT, that’s what I’ve learned. At least knowing I’m not alone in this keeps me from thinking that I’m just particularly bad at being a wife…apparently, this is quite normal.
As I attempt to be good at this whole marriage thing (or at least not horrifically bad), I’ve done what I normally do when confronted with something new: I read. My husband has been a tad mocking of my affinity for self-help books (seems that’s mostly what I’m reading lately), but hell…if they actually allow me to help myself, are they all that bad?
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Once I hit 30, I began asking myself that question all over again. A few years later, I woke one day to realize that I simply didn't believe. For many reasons, I am a much happier (and more emotionally healthy) person having let go of god. There are still days that I wish god did exist. It would be a relief to relinquish responsibility to a greater power.
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But, even better, I can see life for what it is, and work with reality. That's more powerful than any god could hope to be.